Published on November 09, 2015

Telling Ryan

Mindy & Ryan

Me and my husband, Ryan.

I beat Ryan home from work early that afternoon.  I could feel my heart about to jump out of my chest.  I was on our back deck when I could see him pull into our neighborhood.  It’s not often I know something this big, that he doesn’t know immediately.  He was innocent to my reason of worry.

He pulled into the driveway and was walking in through the garage when I came to the door.  “What are you doing home?” he asked.  Then he said, “Oh, was there not a heartbeat?”  “No, there was a heartbeat” I said.  “Oh.  Awe, did you have a miscarriage?” he quickly became sympathetic.  “No, that’s not it.”  I said quietly.  “Then what is it? Why are you home?” he asked again.  I sheepishly just smiled at him with the “Figure it out, man!” look that I used when I told him I was pregnant.  It didn’t work this time.  After what seemed like minutes, I whispered, “There are two babies.”  His face lit up as his eyes became big and gave me a grin of shock and disbelief. He had a quick laugh and said, “Are you kidding me?!”  We sat down, and he ‘jokingly’ breathed into the paper sack he had carried inside with him.  

We sat in disbelief and tried wrapping our heads around everything.  One of the first things he said, “I bet you’re glad we bought a new house now!”  Yes, I get it, you were right.  The house was a good move.  And then he said, “You know, everything is going to be fine. We can do this.” 

I finally relaxed. 

We’ve always made a good team, and through any stressful situation, he’s always a rock.  We talked a bit more about random things.  “We’re going to need a new stroller!”  I added.  “That’s the first thing you think about?” he laughed at me.  I told him how I felt guilty and bad for Tessa.  Taylor lives with her mom in Eastern Iowa during the week, and currently Tessa is the only child at home full time.  Twins will be a lot of work, and I worried she would get lost in the hectic routine of diaper changes, feedings, sneaking in sleep, and ooh’s and awe’s over twins.  She is such a happy-go-lucky little girl, my heart hurt thinking of her being sad and ignored. (Hello, hormones!)  But Tessa is very independent, takes pride in being our “big helper” and she loves when there is a baby at daycare.  Daycare!  Oh my gosh, we realized we had to go talk to Alison, Tessa’s Daycare provider, that afternoon.  She’s wonderful, and Tessa loves her and her family like her own.  Would she take both of the babies?  It was time to start sharing our secret. 

About the Author

Mindy WendtMindy Wendt is a mom of twin girls who were born in April 2016! She and her husband Ryan also have two daughters, Taylor (15) and Tessa (4).



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